Great relationships are founded on good communication, but that doesn’t mean that you can say anything and everything that pops into your head. There are certain things that are better left unsaid. Here are some things that you should never say to your boyfriend because you love him and you’re not going to be that girl.
1. “SHUT UP.”
You should never tell anyone to shut up, really. But especially not your boyfriend. Healthy relationships should be respectful and telling someone to “shut up” is the ultimate sign of disrespect. Those two words speak a thousand different – and hurtful – messages. They say: “I don’t want to hear from you. I don’t care what you have to say”.
2. “YOU REMIND ME OF MY EX.”
You shouldn’t be talking about your ex all that much unless it’s to share your history and get closer to your current partner, and comparing the two men is a big no-no. It’s uncomfortable for your current boyfriend, and it’ll also keep you stuck in the past. Everyone is different, that’s a fact. Let your old relationship go and focus on the new one.
3. “YOU NEED TO MAN UP.”
No, he doesn’t need to “man up”, he isn’t a “pansy”, and he doesn’t need you to emasculate him. Support and encourage your guy, don’t cut him down.
4. “YOUR FRIEND IS REALLY HOT.”
In his mind, he should be the only one for you – even if you do window shop now and then. Don’t make your man insecure by telling him how hot you think his friends are, especially because you wouldn’t like it if he did it to you.
5. “YOUR PARENTS DRIVE ME NUTS.”
Relationships between parents and their children are often complicated. Even if your boyfriend doesn’t get along with his parents, you don’t have the same history with them that he does, so don’t take that burden on your shoulders and instead try to remain as neutral as possible. If he has a good relationship with his parents, then it’s even more important to not be critical and instead grow your relationship with them.
6. “WE NEED TO TALK.”
Good communication is the foundation of a really great relationship. However, if you do need to talk to your boyfriend, cut out the clichés. “We need to talk” can often lead your boyfriend to jump to the wrong conclusions, and therefore can result in bad communication rather than good.
7. “YOU’VE GAINED WEIGHT/YOU’RE GOING GRAY.”
Hey, you wouldn’t like to hear this from him, so why do you think he wants to hear it from you? There are certain things that no one appreciates hearing. If you think he’s letting himself go, there are nicer ways to support him and encourage him to get back into shape/take better care of himself.
8. “I’VE TRAINED YOU WELL.”
No, you haven’t. He’s a human being with a brain of his very own. This kind of comment can be a huge blow to his confidence, as well as insinuate that you’re manipulative. No one wins.