While it’s fair to say that men enjoy most sex positions, women aren’t necessarily as easy to please.
As a dude’s sexual preferences may not always be what’ll get a lady to the finish line, some sex experts and adult performers have chimed in with the best positions that are most likely to please women. It seems that while yoga-tastic, wildly inventive advanced sex positions may be great for a change now and then, what women really want the most is simple: missionary.
Don’t spend all your energy trying to make a crazy position work, and instead, spend time focusing on upping that pleasure level with a few classics.
Missionary is one of the most popular sex positions because it delivers results. It is intimate, allowing you to gaze deep into your lover’s eyes as you reach the finish line. “The positioning and motion stimulates the woman’s clitoris, which is what the majority of ladies (close to 70 percent) need in order to orgasm,” says sexologist and Sex With Emily podcast host Emily Morse. “Perhaps this is why women have been rating it their top pick over the years.”
“The romantic and softer side of me really enjoys missionary,” adds adult entertainment performer Jelena Jensen, who is known for her work with studios such as Girlfriends Films. “While in missionary, I’m able to see him above me, look into his eyes, and wrap my entire body around him. There’s much more of a connection while in missionary, especially with someone you have feelings for.”
Adult performer and fetish model Casey Calvert also agrees on missionary being a favorite. “In my book, relaxation is step one to orgasm,” she says. “But besides that, missionary is my No. 1 position because I can control the angle of my pelvis to make sure he’s really hitting just the right spot. I can do the same in cowgirl; I’m just more of a girl-on-the-bottom kinda girl!”
2. Missionary Variation: Legs on Chest
Morse notes that missionary is so great because there are plenty of ways to spice it up. “For example, instead of laying chest to chest, try holding your partner’s legs against your chest, crossed at the ankles with her thigh muscles clenched,” she suggests. “Women will still love this variation because the clenched thighs provide the same amount of clitoral stimulation (if not more), and allow for a little more hip movement to help your partner hit that sweet spot. Men will definitely enjoy the tighter feel, the ability for deeper thrusts, and the increased visibility won’t hurt either.”
3. Doggy-Style Variation: Stacked Spooning
If we were going by most enjoyable positions for men, doggy-style would definitely take a top spot. “It’s no secret why men love this porn-tastic position,” says Morse. “It is naughty, allows for full range of motion, and you really can’t beat the view.”
For women, on the other hand, doggy-style is not always a slam dunk. Morse suggests a variation of doggy-style that both men and women can get behind. “It’s a lot like the well-known spooning position, but instead of staying on your sides, you and your partner are stacked on top of one another,” notes Morse. “Have your partner lay face down on a bed or some other soft surface with her legs slightly spread. Lie on top of her, using your arms for support (kind of like a plank), and enter her from behind. Not only does this face down configuration provide more intense friction with each thrust, the rocking motion will also create some pleasurable pressure against [her] clitoris for a double whammy.”
4. Doggy-Style Variation: Pillow Under Pelvis
If the stacked feeling proves to be a little bit too much, you can also try placing a pillow underneath her pelvis. “The slight elevation allows for much deeper penetration, and also puts her at the perfect angle for some effortless G-Spot stimulation,” says Morse.
5. Doggy-Style Variation: Flattened Doggy
There are other spins on traditional doggy that are great for women, too.
“While in a flattened doggy, the man is able to hold the woman down by the small of her back,” shares Jensen. “Not only is this great for women that like to be restrained, but the lower back is also an erogenous zone of the female body. This position can also allow for more G-spot stimulation.”
6. Woman on Top
When it comes to female-friendly sex positions, being on top is definitely a go-to.
“With the man on his back, ladies get full control of depth and speed of motion, and are free to grind their hips in whatever way will provide the best direct clitoral stimulation,” notes Morse. “From a visual perspective, this position is just about as good as it gets for guys. Plus, because this position focuses more on rocking back and forth than thrusting in and out, men tend to last a bit longer too!”
7. Woman on Top Variation: Chair
According to Morse, women tend to skip over the standard cowgirl position because they’re too self-conscious in their movements.
“If this is the case, or if you just feel like trying something a little more comfortable, take this position to the nearest couch or chair,” she says. “Sit up normally and have your partner straddle you so that you are face-to-face, or breasts-to-face, depending on height. Instead of bouncing up and down like they do in all of your favorite movies, have your partner swirl around in circles and rock back and forth so that the penis hits the wall of her G-spot over and over again. This grinding motion should also do some pretty magical things for her clitoris too, hopefully resulting in an elusive blended orgasm.”
Bonus: Add Sex Toys to the Mix
Sometimes, incorporating some sex toys into your bedroom activities can help keep you from falling into a routine. Even positions you’ve done a million times can feel brand new again with the right accessory. It’s essentially the same thing as bringing a third into the bedroom without the guilt of cheating.
“Don’t think that adding sex toys means that your sex is boring or less than satisfying,” says sex expert Laurel House. “The opposite is actually true! It shows you’re open to exploring many avenues of pleasure because you feel safe and simultaneously liberated within your relationship. The key is to communicate with your partner. Talk about what you would like to try, then have a conversation after you put your new toy to use to honestly discuss if you liked it and if you want to try it again.”